Thursday, January 1, 2015

A Cheesy and Cliche Entry ~ Yes, I believe in New Year resolution

While some are skeptical about making New Year resolution, I love having New Year resolution. I have been making this since I was still in college when I started to practice this. Of course, there are hits and miss. And carry forward resolutions which I am not able to fulfill before another New Year starts. But that never deter me from continuing to make New Year resolutions.

Let me tell you why I enjoy making New Year resolution.

I am a structured person. Planning is my middle name. I have checklists for almost everything in my life. By having this, in my personal opinion, I can have better focus in my life. And I can manage my time better. Usually, the final week of every year will be spent planning for the subsequent year. I will have the New Year calendar in front of me so I can see public holidays, school holidays, expected kids' exam period among others. This is when I plan when I should take leave and where we should go for our holidays. Of course, there will be curve balls along the year, but since many of other elements have been planned, stress over this so far has been manageable.

There are of course some New Year resolution which are tougher to meet. Like loosing weight. I have been having this in my checklists ever since I delivered Baby, almost 14 years ago. And only this year, I managed to meet the target weight, that is before I got pregnant of course (which was not part of 2014 plans by the way, rejeki :) ). Another derailed plan is completing PhD. Based on initial plan, I was supposed to complete Master when I am 35 and PhD by the time I reach 40. I will be 39 later this year and have only completed my Master later part of 2014. Even that has yet to be confirmed since the results of the Final Year Project will only be released somewhere in March. So, PhD plans will of course be delayed as well.

I also have countries I want to travel to. I get to realised my dream to do part of Europe tour with my better half in 2012. Few other countries in my travel checklists ; New Zealand,Turkey, Eastern Europe countries and China. I also want to explore South Africa and South America. And to at least witness one World Cup match live. Doha maybe an option. All this before I reach 50 Insyallah.

In 2014, I have made few New Year resolutions. One is to complete my MBA journey and Alhamdulilah, that was fulfilled. I mentioned earlier to lose weight. I also planned to take both my parents and inlaws to Vietnam and that was also However, I plan to travel to 2 countries ; New Zealand and to perform Umrah in December. Due to pregnancy, did not get clearance to travel from my gynae. Settled for Bali, which was not part of the plan. Insyallah, this can be the carry forward plans for 2015.

So guys, though we have made resolutions, it's ok to improvise along the way. We have no way get to see what future lies ahead. But the least we can do is to be prepared should changes happen.

2014 has been a good year, may not be great but not too bad at personal level of course. Family wise, it has been great. With Tiny entering our life, it make things more happening. The whole family look forward to the timely check up so we can all catch a glimpse of Tiny via ultrasound. And I get to experience what all expecting mothers would want, minimal weight gain (Tiny growing healthily Alhamdulilah, at normal size and weight), not much increase in size and so far not much change on appearance. I dare to say, I now believe in pregnancy glow. Perhaps, it comes it comes with aging cause I am more calm and compose now. Many may not know, when I was 25, I already have 3 kids therefore, my earlier pregnancies were at a young age. Hati panas slalu, so no glow was seen. Glow in the dark maybe :). Work wise, it could have been better. But I believe every experience comes with hikmah. And it makes me see some individuals in real lights. Some positive, some as negative as a human can be. And it gave me opportunity to reflect and change my approach. Also to be more careful with people around me. While some feels trust need to be earned, my approach has always been to give people benefit of a doubt until they proof to me otherwise. However, the moment my trust is betrayed, highly likely there is no turning back. Maybe due to that, I have been bitten and stabbed too many times. But, bersangka baik to me will continue to be a better way to lead a healthy life.

It is a major year for our family. My better half realised his dream of owning his own business. He opened his first Mini Market joint (with aspiration to have few more this couple of years Insyallah) and I am super proud of him. Very very proud and pray he will continue to excel, Insyallah.

So hear to amazing 2015. And yes, it will be amazing if you want it to be.

* I also pray for a better year for my country. It has been a rough 2014, too many sadness and casualties. Hope it will be a much better 2015 Insyallah....

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

The Hobbit: The Battle of the Five Armies ~ Greed Kills *Spoiler Alert*

I am not a fan of sci-fi kind of film or books. Not into Harry Potter, Star Wars, Lord of The Ring dan sewaktu dengannya. However, being a mom with 3 kids who follow this kind of movies, plus a husband who also enjoy this genre, I am oblige to follow. If I am given a choice, I would rather drown myself reading some romantic books (or some friends call it a Bimbo books so be it) or watch another romantic comedy movie at the next hall) One of the many sacrifices a mom has to do.

So when the kids begged me to take them to watch the latest edition of The Hobbit, I gave in. Made online reservation(and got RM20 discount for it! Woot! Woot!) and told the kids we will be leaving right after solat maghrib. With my condition, I don't really like to pray at public surau. I try to manage my outdoor activities based on prayers time so we don't have to perform prayers away from our home). However, timing is rigid as we only have less than an hour of traveling plus parking and purchase of popcorn time combined.

I must confess, I hate violence kind of movies or series (as opposed to my better half who prefers the-more-people-die-the-better kind of movies). More than 50% of the time throughout the movie, I was either closing my eyes, hiding behind my husband or pretend to look down). When I was looking at the screen, I realised I learned some positive values from the movie.

How greed in leaders will cause serious damage to the country. How Thorin, despite warnings from his team on what had happened to his grandfather, still fell into the same trap of prioritising guarding the gold and entered into war then compromise and share with the rest of the nation. This is when greed took over a man, a leader who has always been reasonable and put the needs of his people before his.

Thorin is fortunate. He has followers who are still willing to tell him when they think he is wrong. "You sit here with a crown upon your head, yet you are less than you were before". How Fili and Kili are not willing to hide behind the fort when the rest of the dwarves are fighting their battle. How many of us are willing to stand up when they feel their leaders are wrong. And the most important question, how many leaders are willing to listen and consider changing when they are told that they are wrong.

Different from the dragon slayer, Bard the Bowman, he said something like this "We must look to our own. We must care for those who are injured" When he negotiated with Thorin, he did not do it just for him. Even at first the elves leader, Thranduil, decided to go into war as he did not see the point of negotiating, Bard pleaded to be given one chance to negotiate. If Thorin is a man of his word, Bard don't even have to negotiate. And there will be no war among the goods and they can join forces and fight the evil forces. Somehow, this situation sounds familiar huh?

I am glad Thorin came to his senses (and he no longer wear the crown). Before he died, *spoiler alert* he said something like this "If more people valued above gold, this world would be a merry place".

And of course being someone who enjoys romantic movies, when Kili died *another spoiler alert*, the heartbroken Tauriel said "If this is love, I do not want it. Take it from me. Please. Why does it hurt so much". Oh my oh my, menikam kalbu!!!

So, yes, amazingly I survived this movie and bonus points, I learned something from it! 

Lepas ni kita tengok cerita Mama pulak yer....

Friday, December 26, 2014

Social Experiment - Viva vs Starex

It always puzzled me how people are always quick to assume. I am sometimes are guilty of this as well. So, I decided to social experiment.

I am not into cars. I think this one of the few traits in me which connected me to the women side. I identify cars by either cantik or tak cantik, or the colours of the cars. And that's that. Don't ask me about the engine performance, fuel consumption or pick up best tak? No idea, no clue.

We have 2 cars. One is for town drive and I am always the one using this car, Viva. I do have this accountant DNA in me, I don't invest in things that depreciate. And car is one of them. I buy cars for the practicality and as long as I don't feel embarrass driving it. Via is a good deal. Easy to park due to the size.

The other car we have is more for long distance drive and for family travel. We decided on that car so that we can bring both of our parents on road trips. Before that, if we bring one parents, we have to leave the other. Now, all can come! Good deal!

However, what I noticed, how differently people treat us just as they see us arriving in different type of cars. Wanted to prove a point, I decided to come with different car to a same event, at the same hotel.

First day, I arrived in Starex. My better half dropped me off and the moment he drove by the lobby, I was immediately greeted with someone opening the door for me and wishing me Good morning in a very warm manner. It felt really good, like a VIP. He even asked me which function I was heading to and gave me the direction to the function room.

Second day, we arrived at the same hotel, this time in a Viva. And as predicted, no one came to the door. No warm greetings, not even offering to give directions to the function room. I am still the same person, coming to the same hotel, dressed the same way just arriving in a different car. Just look how drastic the change in treatment. Interesting.

The same thing when we arrived in luxury branded boutiques. If I come after work, all dressed up in my office suit, nice shoes, branded handbags, I am welcomed like a potential customer, being showed around and given the privilege to touch and feel the shoes or handbags. However, I visited the same boutique, on weekend, wearing my jeans and blouse, normal weekend bags and just sandal, I am being monitored as if I am about to shoplift and the look given to me, "You can't afford this, why don't you just leave and go to where you belong". How shallow huh?

This made me reflect, I should not fall into this same trap and assume the economic status has direct correlation with the way people dress. What's the point of dressing like a million dollar person when you have only RM5 in your purse. And imagine losing million dollar customer just because s/he dressed like someone who can't afford to buy things.

Yes, every experience in life has lessons. If only we think hard enough to learn from it :).

Have a great weekend all!

Share it