Saturday, October 31, 2015

What To Expect When You Get Dengue

Yes, the second edition of my better half dengue adventure. I will try to make this short and sweet given what I will be sharing with you is something you have heard before from those who had their own dengue adventure.

3 top things you need to expect the moment you are confirmed being diagnosed with dengue.

#1 - Advise, Advise, Advise

Yes, expect anyone and everyone to give you advise. Like I said, almost everyone had their own dengue encounter. Sup ketam, jus daun betik, kiwi juice, 100 Plus among others. To be really honest, it was overwhelming for me. With an infant at home, 2 more school going kids and a sick husband at hospital, as much as I valued the advise, I was secretly wishing for more help. I was fortunate my parents rushed to our rescue the moment they received my call,  aaking care of my kids when I need to make my trips to the hospital and my youngest brother who became my driver taking me everywhere. That is exactly I need. I reminded myself, next time if anyone close to me got dengue, I will definitely make Sup ketam for them, prepare the jus daun betik and try to make life easier for them.

And yes, I didn't follow the 100 Plus advise. Just doesn't sound right to me and it's validated by many of my friends who are medical doctors. Instead, I make my better half to drink lots of water to stay hydrated.

#2 Before it goes up, it will go really down

When my better half was first diagnosed with dengue, his platelet was 42. And it went down as low as 17 when he was admitted. Of course, for someone who has no medical knowledge, I panicked, and panicked really bad. However, doctors assured me that's a normal trend and we just need to get him to stay hydrated. Apart from the drip treatment, my better half need to drink so we monitored his fluid in take. Alhamdulilah, within 5 days, his platelet went back up.

#3 I need to take care of myself too

Sometimes I forget I need to rest, eat and take care of myself too. It will not help if I also fall sick. Running around here and there, sometimes I forget that. My mom was the one who gave me constant reminder I need to make sure I eat on time, I sleep well and I rest. I know it's easier said than done, but it is important.

What did we do first the moment my better half recovered? I cooked Chilli Crab, Sup ketam has been eliminated from our menu until further notice :).

In all honesty, I don't want anyone to go through our experience. Even people who I don't like that much. Maybe I don't have anyone I hate so much that I want to see them suffer like that....

So, people, prevention is always better than cure. Make sure your home is not a breeding ground for mosquitoes. No one should ever go through dengue experience if we can help it.

Monday, October 26, 2015

Our very own dengue adventure

Almost everyone I know has their very own dengue experience. Either they themselves have gotten it, or their spouses, children, or someone related to them. As for me, my youngest brother was infected by dengue few years back. 

I must be lying if I tell you I am prepared for this. Yes, I have heard of many related stories however, nothing prepared me for this experience. And to make it more interesting and less traumatising, I decided to call it adventure.

My better half's temperature began to rise on last 2 Sundays. It started right after he came back from his shop in Johor. Usually, he is a man full of energy. However, this round he just wanted to sleep. I thought he was just tired. As the night progress, I don't feel good and I have a feeling it might be dengue. Early Monday morning, I forced him to see the doctor, my preference is to go to the hospital but he insisted it's nothing and to go to a clinic instead.

However, the next day, his condition got worse and he is still not wanting to go to the hospital. That night, his whole body experienced cramps and I know I can't wait anymore. With my son help, we got my husband into our car and I drove him to the nearest hospital. 

He got his blood checked and it's confirmed as dengue. The hospital however asked us to go to another hospital as they have no bed. This was the start of my frustration. The service was so bad, no empathy whatsoever from that particular hospital in making sure my better half is well taken care of. Anyone in medical line would know dengue patient need to stay hydrated. I asked for some water and the nurse told me, "Takde, mesin air rosak". Unbelievable for a private hospital has no source of water at all. What is clear, they just want to get rid of us as we are no longer their problem.

I went to another nearby hospital and got rejected again. I called few other hospitals, either they have no beds or they can't accept my better half as his platelet is too low. In the middle of the night I was crying alone in the car driving my better half around praying for him to get the necessary treatment. 

We ended up in KPJ Kajang and this was the time I broke down when they can't accept my better half. I was begging and pleading for them to help as it's clearly my better half was in great pain. Despite not having any bed, I am glad they are willing to help. They know I am not in position to drive anymore, so they offered to send us to Hospital Kajang. They are the only hospital that explained to us, due to his platelet was low, the SOP is to send him to government hospital for treatment. No other hospital explained that to us.

Finally, my better half got accepted in Hospital Kajang. Condition of the hospital is not conducive but at least he is getting some treatment. It was 3.30am, I was sorting out the necessary paperwork before he can get admitted. As the hospital is full, he didn't get a proper bed, he was placed in a store on a stretcher which can only fit his body and his hands are literally dangling. Though I wish he is in a better treatment place, after what we went through, I am counting my blessings. At least, he started to get the necessary care and treatment.

Will continue to blog about the rest of the adventure later.

Pusat Rawatan An-Nur, despite having islamic approach and ambiance, the way you treated my better half embarrassed our religion. I no longer wish to seek treatment at your center and will not recommend my families and friends to do so either. I usually take my son for his monthly jabs here, well not anymore. 

Dearest nurses in KPJ Kajang. Only Allah can repay your kindness. You showed us you are not just a a profit oriented medical center and you really care for your patients, in our case, we are not even your patient yet. Thanks for sending us safely to Kajang Hospital, though you know you don't have to. We will be forever grateful. My apology for not getting the nurses names. I will surely write officially to your management so everyone who helped us that night will get the necessary recognition.

Ok, gottta go. Stay tuned for the next dengue adventure :) 

Friday, July 31, 2015

The day I feel like a bad mom....

I started working after giving birth to Isyraf about 2 months ago. I tried my best to juggle my life with this new responsibility. I'm no longer mother of 3, I'm now mother of 4. To be specific, 3 teenagers and 1 baby. And I must confess it's hard.

Yes, I'm lucky and grateful my employer allows me to be on flexible working arrangements. That  of course, helped. However for those who have or are now working from home will know it's not as easy as what other's think. That is another story for another time...

However, off late I feel like I'm failing as a mom. I feel tired easily and not diligent in my role as a mom, the most important role at all. Few days ago, Ilham nearly missed school cause I can't wake up in the morning, woke up at 7.15am instead of my normal 5am. Our house is in a mess, since we came back from UK I did not review my kids homework. I tried cooking good dish, however I feel I cooked like c**p. I can just pray things don't get any worse.

I don't know what is getting into me. I'm glad my better half is supporting me a lot. This week he woke up at night to feed Isyraf cause he saw how tired I am (he said I snore in my sleep, that shows how tired I am) and tak sampai hati nak kejut.

Motherhood is the most important part of my life. Nothing is more important than that. Taking care of my family is my top priority. Nothing beats that. My better half said I'm being hard on myself, I don't think so. I really feel I'm not doing enough.

Am I getting sloppy at my number 1 job? Am I getting less competent? Have I lost it?

Maybe I just can't multitask anymore. Maybe I should..........

Have a great weekend everyone!
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